Oct 16, 2014 #TBT: Anxiety and the Men's Shower Room. So you get it that you are supposedly watching high school boys in the showers durng these scenes. Oct 18, 2009 Why are Freshman boys afraid of being seen naked in the locker room? Hey, I'm a 14 year old guy. I'm also a freshman in High School, and I've noticed something strange about the other freshman in my P.E. Class: They're terrified of other guys seeing them naked.
Never in high school. Which, when I think back about it, was kind of gross to be walking around all day like that.
I had PE first period my sophomore year in HS, and, while it didn't amount to much in terms of any educational value or physical health benefits, we did sweat at times.Honestly, I didn't have the best body image/self esteem back then. Weak, no muscles, awkward, completely non-athletic. So, I was self-conscious and not comfortable within my own skin. I was glad that it wasn't forced on us.
I think the PE teachers were too lazy to care, and too lazy to want to do the work involved of cleanup of a messy wet locker room, I'm sure it couldn't/wouldn't all wait for the janitorial staff at the end of the day.But, there is a flip side to this, IMHO. I was very uptight about body image, to the point that I avoided doctors for a lot of years when I had conditions that should have been treated, like extremely high blood pressure. When I was 18/19, I had a male PCP, and I hated going. I had blood pressure readings at times somewhere in the range of 210/130, and I was not overweight, so it was genetic.
And, I hated going to see him because I was uncomfortable with my body image, and so about age 20, I quit going. Which, of course, meant no blood pressure pills. I also was borderline type II diabetic, even when I was carrying 155-160 lbs on my six foot frame, so I was treated for that at age 18 with oral meds. By 20, when I quit going to doctors, that was not treated for years, either.
For about oh, all of my 20's and into my mid-30's. And, lo and behold, I wondered why I felt like crap a lot of the time. It shouldn't have taken a rocket scientist to figure that one out, and I knew on a fundamental level, but I couldn't get past the fear of looking like, well, a weak nerd with no muscles and out of shape. So, I suffered and let damage be done to my internal organs by blood sugar fluctuations and high blood pressure. Now paying the price for years of neglecting my health, trying to undo the damage but I will always have some problems.I have come to realize, after oh, so many years, nobody really gives a rat's ass about what you look like nude or otherwise, as an adult, except really, for yourself.
The first time I had a physical with my current PCP, a woman, I was a little uptight about it, especially the 'turn your head and cough' part that guys get, but you know, she's a professional, and God knows, she's probably seen guys worse looking and in far worse shape than I am. Doesn't bother me now, male or female, doctors don't care, and believe me, I've had enough medical conditions that every part of my anatomy has been poked, prodded, and inspected. You get over it.If you can't make peace with your own body image, you will have problems in life.
If you can, things like taking a shower in a gym locker room really won't bother you. That kind of peace with yourself won't come easily, not at a young age, and especially for any teenager who is in any way 'different' from the standard of perfection, either scrawny, too tall, too short, not muscular, not athletic, overweight.I guess what I would say to the OP, or anyone with kids of the age to be in this situation, is to think about the big, long term picture.
Yes, it may be uncomfortable and embarrassing short term, but long term if you can get over that, it will make you less inclined to feel bad about yourself because of body image. I don't think our junior high school even had showers.
I was in high school in the late 60's, a modest time. I don't recall anyone showering, but have a vague recollection of the showers running, so I think they were fairly private stalls with curtains. Like in a gym nowadays.I would never shower nude in a public area. I think it's disgusting when others do.
I really don't wanna see that sort of thing. I come from a modest home.mainly female.I never did walk around nude or in my undies, and neither did my sisters. A modest home as well.I think I was in my late 30s the first time I was exposed to a locker room full of women running around in the altogether.A couple of friends belonged to a community center, and my boyfriend at that time and I would meet them there for a few games of racquetball, after which we hit the showers.I can't say I was disgusted, but I was highly embarrassed by the total abandon with which some of those women ran around sans clothing. Or even a towel, which they, FGS, could have wrapped around their waists, at the very least.Some sort of concession toward the modesty of others.
But sometimes, when I've run across it, I've felt some of the women were being.what's the word when you intentionally expose yourself? An exhibitionist? No reason not to tie a towel around yourself.I was exposed to that when I was a child, at the public swimming pool. I really don't think my sisters and I should've been exposed to totally nude grown women.bad when they're strangers, even worse when we knew them!But then that paled in comparison to the thought of everyone peeing in the public pool. I wouldn't go to a public pool now.
When I was a kid.in those days, public pools were common. Most people didn't have pools in their backyards, even if they were wealthy.
And our showers were these winding tunnels with the water shooting out from pipes running along the sides. Some of the PE teachers were real sadists (why is that?) and played with the hot-cold valves from the control room while we ran through. If you didn't have any natural issues with nudity before that, you had plenty afterward. Today, when I work out, I do it at the end of the work day (at our fitness ctr at the college where I work) so I can dress in my office and skip the showers & locker room scene.I haven't actually seen the college locker room since they last rehabbed it but it used to have a communal shower. Between that and the fact that the basketball team and their girlfriends were using the employee locker room as their clubhouse, it just seemed best to steer clear. We were actually forced to.The girls locker room had shower stalls and we would walk back and forth covered by towels.As long as we looked a bit damp, say on our arms, the gym teacher(s) pretty much let things slide.We girls could get by without a shower at all by using the code word 'excused' as we walked back into the locker room from gym.
That meant we were having our periods.probably a time when we could have used a shower the most, but whatever. We got out of the entire thing for a week.Oh, and if we had been forced to shower any other way, my dad would have been at the school raising holy hell. He was a modest man, and also sensitive to the modesty issues of his young daughters.
A 17-year-old Georgia boy has been charged with a felony for allegedly secretly recording a video of two other teen students in the middle of sex in a school bathroom last week, PEOPLE confirms.Kyle Steven Bahner faces a count of eavesdropping-surveillance for allegedly filming a male and female student — 16 and 15, respectively — while the latter two were engaged in a consensual sex act in a closed boy’s bathroom stall at their Atlanta-area high school on May 2, according to an arrest warrant obtained by PEOPLE. He was arrested on Thursday after the school’s assistant principal reported the video to school district police. He was bailed out about an hour after his arrest, records show.Under state law, Bahner is considered an adult for the purposes of criminal prosecution because he is at least 17 years old.“This incident has been thoroughly investigated by school administrators and school district police.
In addition to the criminal charge, appropriate action has been taken in accordance with the Student Code of Conduct,” the school district said in a statement to PEOPLE.A district spokesman said he was unable to answer further questions.It is unclear whether Bahner has an attorney who could comment on his behalf or if he has pleaded to his charge. He could not be reached directly on Wednesday.
With reporting by ADAM CARLSON.